The Truth Is…

I find myself searching for someone that will never be found.  I am looking for someone who is ambitious, happy, stable, loving, kind, a believer and follower of God.  Someone to compliment my rollercoaster life.  Someone to break bread with.  You know, a ride or die.  Someone with focus and goals.  This person has to fit MY ideal image in all of these areas.   This person has to understand all of the intricacies that make me who I am. 

I have searched from coast to coast, looking for my ideal person.  While on the road I found an abuser, a recluse, and an imposter.  While it is easy to give these individuals a title and be judgmental of who they are, the truth is the person with the real issues is me.  The truth is by searching I am going outside of myself to find something that I have made up in my mind to be ideal.  On that note, I am attracting just the opposite of what I am looking for.  Ambitious becomes lazy, happy becomes sad, stable becomes chaotic, loving becomes jealousy, kind becomes selfish, and believer becomes nonbeliever.  How on earth can this person compliment my rollercoaster life much less break bread with me?  Forget about ride or die that becomes run for your life girl.  That is just what I have been doing, running for my life. 

I am now tired of searching, feeling disappointed, disconnected, and running for my life.  I am now forced to face my demons head on.  What I have found is my truth.  The truth is:

• People are not projects that require repair or even someone’s opinion of who they are.
• Either you accept someone for who they are or leave them alone.
• Each person has their own self work to do. Be respectful of their process.

With that said, my search is over.  As I sit here alone with my ideal ideas, I discovered that my ideal person was never lost.  Therefore, my searching was pointless.  As a matter of fact, I have had that person all along.  I have been running and searching everywhere for something that was in plain sight.  She is me and I am her, a woman who is willing to stand in her truth, submitting to personal growth, and spiritual maturity.  I challenge you to stand in your truth.

The Power of Self Reflection

Self reflection is the precursor to personal growth.  It is easy to focus on objects outside of self.  However, taking time to examine oneself is very important.  By embracing your ability to self reflect, you take a winner's position.  Through self refection, you will discover new qualities you possess or even rejuvenate dormant characteristics which may propel your life onto a more fulfilling path.  

Your reality is the sum of your life experiences and your perspective on all matters.  If you're reading this blog you are on the right path to completely identifying and acknowledging the source of your strength.  This is where self reflection falls into place.  It helps strengthen your belief system, identify areas of concern, and promote positive thought processes.

Self reflection combined with positive affirmation is the recipe for a healthy mindset.  The next time you are in a situation, tap into your strength and use self reflection as a guide, add positive affirmations to help reinforce the source of your strength, you.

The following are some suggestions of positive self talk:

1.  I am happy that I tried even though the outcome is different than I expected.
2.  I am proud of my determination.
3.  I am proud of who I am.
4.  I can identify areas for improvement and I have the power to make changes.
5.  I am very powerful, not powerless.
6.  My efforts have a purpose.
7.  I have a purpose.

The Authority of Your Perception

So, is the glass half full or is the glass half empty?  Are you experiencing pain or is it growth? Is your life a mess or is it just time to remodel?  These are just a few questions that will allow you to reflect on your perception.  What are you harboring in your mind?  Is your mind cluttered with negativity?  Are you generally a positive or negative person?  These are issues worth reflecting on.  If your reading this blog, I am under the impression that you are striving to be a better you.  Therefore, self reflection is the beginning of refining yourself. 

The authority of YOUR perception lies deep within you.  The way you view life will determine the quality of your living experience.  An example, a positive person will look for the good in every situation.  On the other hand, a negative person will perceive most thing negatively, thus, missing many important opportunities.  As everyone has innate authority, why not exercise the authority of one's perception?  How do you view the world?  Are you aware that you mold your reality based on your perception?  Just a concept to think about...

A Renewed Perspective

Life has many different views. It's okay to explore. -Monique

The idea of renewing your perspective requires a certain level of understanding and maturity.  You ask, "why is it necessary to renew my perspective?"  The answer is quite simple...to live a more tranquil life.  After all, there is always room for improvement.

We dream of a peaceful and tranquil life, so why not take the steps necessary to actually acquire our desires?  What is the barrier wedged between you and a peaceful life?  Are your dreams realistic?  What have you done thus far to transform your dreams into reality? 

You see...A renewed perspective takes the impossible and turns it into the possible.  It turns your dreams into reality.  It relieves you of stress and worry. It keeps you motivated, looking forward to a brighter tomorrow.  Renewing your perspective is necessary if you seek improvement in your overall quality of life.  It is time to get started with a renewed view, a renewed you, a more tranquil life. Here is a good place to start: What are some of your dreams or goals and what is preventing you from accomplishing them?